Reclaiming Your Power: The Real Journey of Healing from CPTSD and Trauma
Reclaiming Your Power: The Real Journey of Healing from CPTSD and Trauma
Healing from Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (CPTSD) and trauma isn’t just about feeling better. Of course, I want you to feel better—you deserve to feel at peace, safe, and happy—but the true purpose of healing goes far beyond that. Healing is about rediscovering who you are at your core and bringing your unique gifts into the world. It’s about becoming the person you were always meant to be.
One of the most significant challenges we face on this journey is recognizing and breaking free from harmful relationships. Whether it’s a romantic partner, a friend, or even a boss, staying in relationships that make you unhappy, sad, or afraid can prevent you from fully healing. These relationships drain your energy, cloud your mind, and keep you stuck in patterns that reinforce your trauma.
I want to address a common misconception that has gained traction in recent years, especially with the rise of the “law of attraction” movement. Many people believe that we attract bad people into our lives because of our energy or mindset. This belief can be harmful and misleading. The truth is, we don’t attract bad people into our lives; instead, we may find ourselves attracted to them. And this is something we can change.
It’s crucial to understand that we cannot control who is attracted to us, and we don’t need to. What we do have control over is who we allow into our lives and how we respond to their behavior. The focus shouldn’t be on changing other people or hoping they will treat us better. Instead, we need to work on changing our tolerance for mistreatment.
Staying in toxic relationships can be a form of avoidance. It’s easier to focus on someone else’s bad behavior than to confront our own pain and the patterns that keep us stuck. But this avoidance comes at a cost—it drains our energy, leaves us feeling disrespected, and perpetuates our suffering.
Healing involves developing the courage to stop tolerating bad behavior. It means recognizing that your tolerance for mistreatment is something you can change. This shift in perspective is incredibly empowering. Instead of trying to change your energy to attract better treatment from others, you can focus on becoming the kind of person who simply won’t tolerate being treated poorly.
This is not about blaming yourself for being in a bad relationship—far from it. It’s about reclaiming your power and taking responsibility for your well-being. It’s about understanding that you have the right and the ability to say no to relationships and situations that do not serve your highest good.
If you find yourself in a toxic relationship, I encourage you to start making plans to leave, even if it’s not something you can do immediately. It might take time, but taking steps toward your freedom is an essential part of your healing journey.
In conclusion, healing from CPTSD and trauma isn’t just about feeling better—it’s about reclaiming your power, setting boundaries, and no longer tolerating relationships or situations that keep you from being your true self. It requires courage, self-awareness, and a commitment to putting your well-being first. Remember, you are the gatekeeper of your own life, and you deserve to live free from the burden of toxic relationships.
